'Angel' Baby Davis

My niece Ashley, lost her baby yesterday. She and her husband Jake were expecting their first child together and she had a miscarriage. She was around 3 months along. My heart breaks for her and Jake. Thankfully her boys are too young to understand what took place, but not too young to wonder why mommy and daddy Jake are upset. It's just so hard to understand why, but I believe Baby Davis is with Jesus. Please keep them in your prayers.

After I talked to Ashley I called her dad, my brother Kevin, and he was upset too. You hurt when your child hurts. Unfortunately, he knows what it's like to lose a child as well. 'Angel' Carissa was just 1 year and 1 day old when she passed away. A different circumstance, but still the loss of a child. My mom has always said there is nothing worse than losing a child. I believe it.

When people go through things like this, we seem to want to say, I know how you feel, but in reality, if you haven't been down that SAME road, then you don't know how that person feels. I know you are just trying to comfort that person, but it can make things worse. Boyd and I haven't been able to have children of our own and that hurts so bad. It will sometimes make me so upset when someone says, "I know how you feel" when they DO NOT know how I feel. They have children and were able to get pregnant, so please don't say that. This may seem like a selfish thing to say, but take a walk in my shoes or my good friend's shoes who's going through the fire with me. Her and I have gripe sessions a quite a bit. We hurt when people complain about being pregnant, how sick they were or how tired they are of being pregnant. We would LOVE to be sick because of pregnancy, we would LOVE to be big and miserable because of a pregnancy. Or the one that really gets me and I think my friend, is when people say, "just don't think about it", "you're trying too hard", "maybe if you adopt, maybe then you'll get pregnant, works for other people", etc. Maybe some of those things are true, but when you're the person who feels inadequate as a woman because you can't give your husband a child, those are some of the last things you need to hear. Just be supportive and let that person know you're thinking of them and praying for them. Give them a hug, don't say anything.

Ok, so sorry. Just had to vent a moment.

Please keep the following in your prayers:
Ashley & Jake - my niece who miscarried
Trinity - has appointment in Columbia in April
Delbert & Patsy - sweet people from my church and she is battling cancer
Deb & Lou - Had to turn the life support off of their son and he passed away
Joel & Jess - lost their 10 month old little girl to cancer
Dad & Mom - their ministry in Tishomingo